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Pastor's Corner

Pastor's Corner 


Marriage: Rights & Responsibilities, Post-Fall Marriage

Sunday we began our series on Marriage by focusing on God’s construct. It’s wrong to consider marriage a social construct. God created marriage as a covenant relationship with responsibilities and rights. The covenant bond is contingent on those responsibilities and can be broken.

This will be our study this coming Sunday. When God joined Adam and Eve, sin had not entered the relationship. Each found joy glorifying God in their relationship and demonstrated the love of God to each other. But then they disobeyed God and everything changed. When God confronted them after their sin, he said to Eve, “Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” (Genesis 3:16b).

This is an important verse because it defines how marriage changed after the fall. Eve already desired her husband, so the word seems to have a different meaning. The same word is used of sin in 4:7 where it indicates sin wants to control Cain. He is told, “You must rule over it.” This is probably what God is saying to Eve. Let me paraphrase, “No longer will you naturally partner with your husband but will desire to control him; and he will no longer naturally devote himself to you, but will dominate you.”

Can you imagine those wedding vows? We’d never say it but this is what’s brewing in our hearts. It’s only by the grace of God (common and special) that marriages hold together. Marriages fail because people are sinners. Sometimes one person has gone their own way, most of the time both, have contributed in significant ways.

God is not indifferent to reality of the fall and provides direction for how to handle sin within a marriage. So come Sunday and consider the mercy and wisdom of God with me.

~Pastor Tim